Sitting on my bed, listening to the whistles of the wind got me thinking how natural and interesting it would have been if we humans can just be ourselves. People are no longer real, there is a lot of masking going on in our society today. The act of being desperate has sent a lot of people to there early grave.
People are busy living fake life style, trying to impress others, that doesn’t even know they exist, this is extremely unacceptable. This situation is causing acute problems personally for the participant and the society at large. A time comes when this person is not able to meet up to expectation because of funds. Fooling yourself can be very devastating, and the consequences are immensely destructive . As I sat on my bed a thousand and one questions were busy rioting within me. Why will people want to be pretentious about their real self. Answers like fear of rejection, being desperate, addiction, self deception and a host of others are reasons for this low life. In recent research a cognitive psychologist have gathered that self deception is a basic feature of the human make up, a little bit of it is termed okay, but when it shoots across the roof or when it becomes a core challenge in one’s career, relationship money, sexual identity and your personality it then becomes a huge problem. Such life is not healthy at all, authenticity is one of the keys to our wellbeing, it helps you navigate the hurdles of life smoothly, instead of exhausting yourself with trivial things.
It is tiring and very repulsive when you see these type of people all around you, in schools, churches, malls even among our immediate family. The good news is, there is a way you can help yourself come out of such detestable lifestyle.
Learn to love yourself, accept the authentic you, when you like or appreciate yourself others will have no choice. Being you helps grow your confidence, it allows less stressful moments, it saves you plenty of time because instead of busy looking for lies to tell in order to belong, or cover past lies just choose to be yourself don’t forget that less stress makes one very productive. It is difficult to manipulate real people. Creating false personality is not a good way of life. Don’t let insecurity ruin your life for you. Determine to change for good.
For that change to come, you will learn how to take a moment for yourself to enable you hit the reset button. Consciously take a break of respite or relaxation, map out time for happy moments, do not think about who have over taken you in life, concentrate on the little you have achieved and be grateful. Crate that “ me time” it will help you. Roll out the joyful state of mind because it is a time of good vibes and it sends positive energy which enables us to look in hope for a better future. Learning how to plan your happiness for a better future is paramount. Laughing a lot is another great way of helping you come out of that fake life. Laugh out your fears and worries, think about the last time you really laughed, laughing is medicinal and we need the dosage daily, moreover it’s a choice why don’t you choose wisely, it will help you physically and health wise. Lastly if you are still trapped in the fake life syndrome, after applying all the different methods you can seek help, maybe see a specialist. I know you will be happier when you are real to yourself.
